Selfie Love

Nowadays we younger folks are pretty much used to getting comments from older people about our relationship with the internet, with our phones, etc. Ya'll know the drill. "Today's teens!! Always on the facebooks and listening to sinful songs about having sexual intercourse, not respecting the sanctity of marriage!!!What happened to the good ol' days when we would get married at 20 just to get divorced 5 times after hm? Those were the days!!".

Okay I might've gone overboard, but to me that's how ridiculous they sound. Things are changing, get used to it. We're adapting, it's not our fault ya'll are still angry about not knowing how to send an e-mail. Point is, as millennials, the thing we are made fun of the most is for... loving ourselves? I'm talking about selfies. I'm talking about that day you went out with your friends and wanted to remember that because you had fun, and took a group pic. I'm talking about that day when your makeup looked bomb and you wanted to share your awesome skills with others. I'm talking about capturing moments with your significant other, or simply taking silly photos with those snapchat filters just for the heck of it. Sounds fun, right? So why are we so looked down at for doing these? Are we really that self-absorbed, selfish as they accuse us of? Are we vain, narcissistic? Is the selfie culture that awful as people make it seem?

My answer, as an avid selfie taker (not really avid, but I do love taking some every now and then) personal is no. Straight up no, nope, nicles, el zipo, nein, não. Selfies are an amazing thing that boost our self confidence! And we can't just pretend that we're the first generations that take self portraits like, we as a species have been doing that for centuries. Ugh, Van Gogh really was a dick for painting all those portraits of himself! How dare he! Can we talk about Frida Khalo? My god did she ever painted anything else except for her awesome face? That's how stupid people who criticize selfies sound. Selfie culture is a true revolution of self love. We can express ourselves, we can get compliments (don't pretend you don't like validation, come on. "she's so stupid, always getting complimented on her great looks, ugh!", that sounds like jealousy to me...), we can save small snippets of our life to remember later.

One may argue that things are getting a bit out of control, and to an extent I agree. Now, I'm not talking about the occasional selfie when you are truly feeling yourself, I'm talking about the #inthetoilet, #crossingtheroad, #takingthetrashout selfies, those are out of control. I mean who even takes selfies crossing the road, girl that's dangerous! Also, people who photoshop their faces to hell and back to try and come across as someone completely different, that's not what I'm about.
But all in all my last stand on this is that selfies, in their roots, are all about self acceptance and love. What's your stand on this issue?

● Inês ●

The True, Healthy Detox

Hello!

You must have heard this lots and lots of times, especially during this new era of social media, but we care too much about looks. And you know, I'm not saying this as your old bitter uncle in a family gathering, complaining about the teens of today, not at all. I'm saying this as a teen, because I know just how easy it is to get sucked in towards these things, especially as a young girl.

We're constantly fed with ideas of what we should be, dress like, act like, eat, drink. We may not bend from these pressures but it definitely gets stuck in our brain, like a small annoying reminder when we go against these stuff. We may see a photo of someone beautiful and joke about it like #goals, but in fact inside we'd kill for a body like that, for a pretty nose that model has, for those fashionable clothes we wish we had money for. Now, when you face these things, you can act in 3 certain ways. 

1. You can live in bitterness and refuse to be anything like them, claiming that you love yourself like that and laugh at them and try to get away from everything fashion/makeup/whatever related, mock other people who do like those stuff and pretend you're on a higher level than them; 
2. you can totally let yourself go, loose control, spend hours on instagram searching fitspo posts, try to be someone you're not, completely over do it;
3.  and you can accept that there is an healthy balance, because there really is one. 

I'm not perfect, I've been that first phase, full on hating other women who even wore mascara, preaching the more natural look whilst feeling awful on the inside, living in bitterness. I've never been that second phase, but I'mm trying to reach that balance. I love makeup, I do, but I'm more than that, and I've realized that I've only gone make up free in public like at least 10 times in the past year and a half. It's completely fine, I'm comfortable that way, I'm not trying to over do anything and to change my face, only to enhance some stuff, but that's not all that I am, and I'm afraid I've kind of let that image of me sink into other peoples minds, and I don't want that. It's brave to wear makeup here in Portugal, it's not something that people use a lot, it's something that it's judged, mocked largely both by men and women, but I'll never ever feel guilty for wearing it, that's a promise I've made to myself. But now, I think it's time for a bit of a detox. Not from outside pressures, but to prove myself that I have it in me. So I plan on:

• Don't wear makeup at home or in public for 1 week
• Don't visit any social media for that week, and maybe extend it to 2 weeks
• Don't buy anything beauty/fashion related for 1 month

Now, some people must be like "o...kay.. that's not hard at all" but I'd be lying if I say the idea for me doesn't scare me a bit. I want to detox myself, because although our looks are a way of self expression, and even a powerful weapon, they can be stressful and superficial. I want to be able to prove that to myself. And also get away from social media because it usually gives me urges to buy some stuff or I obsessively check toxic people photos that I know are going to make me angry and I still do, so yeah, a full on detox. I want to feel more clean, I want to feel inspired, I want to change the game, to break some black and white notions. I don't feel ashamed for being who I am, I'm proud that I'm committing to this idea. I love the internet, I love make up, and I love myself, and I have the ability to create a balance between addiction and poison vs. true freedom and a clear mind. 

There, have some inspo to also commit to this in case you find yourself in the same state of mind and restlessness as I am, and good luck. I also urge you to check out this site and this instagram account and read through the photos and different pages, she was the person who inspired me. Once again, good luck.